White Wedding or No


Growing up, I fantasized about my marriage to a beautiful lady, if I should find her one day. One time I dreamt seeing her dressed in her white wedding gown at church. I didn't see her face, else I would have talked a bit about this gorgeous African queen I beheld. I am considering a change of mind to having a traditional marriage ceremony only.

Ask me why and I will say consciously or unconsciously, I started appreciating African culture and traditions and decided to start practicing them once I have the chance. The African traditional marriage ceremony for reason(s) which I know not has become known as an 'Engagement'. It is equated to that of the West hence followed by a church or white wedding.

As the Ghanaian traditions and customs demand, a man can say he is engaged to a woman after he has presented a drink to the woman's family to announce his intention (that we call 'kɔkɔɔkɔ' or 'knocking'). After the woman agrees to the man's proposal in the presence of family members, the man can go back home and prepare to come perform the marriage rites. This is when both families and the couple's friends gather around to witness the woman's bride price or bride worth been paid, and her family give her away into marriage.

However, because we assume everything the white man says and does is right, we, in Africa are either downplaying the grandeur of our gorgeous Traditional marriage ceremonies and putting more focus on white weddings or stressing ourselves to have two ceremonies that amount to pretty much the same thing. Now let the conversation begin:

Should we in Africa be having two big ceremonies for one marriage?

Are the whites also stressing to add our traditions to theirs?

Isn't the double ceremony complicating the whole process of getting married?

 Share your thoughts.

Comments

  1. Peekish13 April 2018 at 11:16

    Well said Rojay,I don't get why we stress ourselves with this double ceremonies. I am for our traditional marriage ceremony.

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    1. Unknown13 April 2018 at 11:40

      Yeeeeeeeeee! You are a true African queen. ✌

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  2. Friendship13 April 2018 at 11:22

    It’s true not to talk of why some people like to skip this whole ceremony and do the court wedding it’s quite easier and cheaper if you ask me

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    1. Unknown13 April 2018 at 11:41

      So I suppose you will have a traditional wedding and convince your future Mrs. too. 😀

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  3. Unknown13 April 2018 at 11:50

    Bro I see that every value of Africa we used to enjoy keeps fading day by day due to the desire we have for western culture.

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    1. Unknown13 April 2018 at 12:04

      We must not allow it the values of our African culture to fade.

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  4. A Poet's Muse13 April 2018 at 12:52

    Too bad our today's generation fancy white weddings than traditional ones.
    I suggest we should be schooled on that.
    We are neglecting our beautiful culture and loosing our identity.

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    1. Unknown13 April 2018 at 12:59

      Beautifully said, Naa. Let's start the schooling in our courting.

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    2. Anonymous13 April 2018 at 14:38

      Nice piece bro, we always see our traditions as fetish and outmoded. We have forgotten that the white man will never and ever take our culture, hmmm sometimes I feel there is something wrong with our genes. It is soo sad.

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    3. Unknown13 April 2018 at 16:26

      There's something really wrong with us that must be fixed fast.

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  5. LeKMA.blogspot.Teshie13 April 2018 at 18:05

    I'm for traditional wedding after reading your piece. Keep promoting Africa

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    1. Unknown13 April 2018 at 19:24

      I'm happy about that. 😀 My is to see us all uphold our African values.

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  6. Unknown15 April 2018 at 11:01

    its all in the mindset

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